Operation: Thriving Marriage

Ep 62 - Relationship Jet Lag

Welcome to Operation: Thriving Marriage, where we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships and provide actionable insights to help your marriage flourish. In this episode, we explore the concept of "Relationship Jet Lag."Host Bryon kicks off the conversation with his recent frequent travels, highlighting the stark differences in how couples experience reconnection after a period of separation. Whether it's days, weeks, or even hours apart, many couples face challenges in reconnecting due to what we term "Relationship Jet Lag."This phenomenon of "jet lag" in relationships manifests as a mental disconnection despite physical presence, often caused by unmet expectations or unanticipated circumstances. It can lead to dissatisfaction, isolation, reduced communication, hurt, and anger.Navigating this "jet lag" requires acknowledgment and open communication. Couples must share their feelings and experiences, addressing unmet expectations and making joint plans to overcome them. Listening actively and giving each other space and understanding are crucial steps in bridging the gap.We delve into practical strategies, emphasizing honesty about emotional "timezones," patience during transitions, and making the most of shared moments. Additionally, we reference biblical wisdom on forgiveness and understanding, reinforcing the importance of empathy and kindness in building a resilient connection.Join us on Operation: Thriving Marriage as we equip you with tools to conquer "Relationship Jet Lag" and strengthen your marital bond. Stay tuned for future episodes focused on enriching your relationship journey.

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Ep 61 - When Compromise is Not an Option

Discover why compromise isn't always the answer in marriage, as we delve into the pitfalls of elevating compromise too high in marital discussions. Join us as we explore real-life examples, biblical perspectives, and practical solutions for resolving conflicts when compromise is not an option. Learn how to identify underlying values, seek guidance, and make decisions that strengthen your marriage without sacrificing your core beliefs. Don't miss this insightful episode on navigating marital conflicts with wisdom and grace.

Ep 60 - Competing in Marriage

Episode 62 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast – exploring the dynamics of Healthy Competition in relationships.

Discover the underlying problem as we explore how competition can lead to conflict in marriages. We discuss how competitive individuals often attach personal value to winning, revealing insecurities that breed negative feelings.

Our suggested solution emphasizes that avoiding competition altogether doesn't foster a thriving marriage. Instead, learn to compete in healthy ways by letting go of your ego, celebrating your spouse's victories, and being gracious when you win.

We provide insights on what's fair game in healthy competition - from the gym to games - and what's off-limits, like competing for children's affection. It's crucial to prioritize your relationship over the competition.

In the conclusion, we affirm that healthy competition is a positive force that pushes us to be better. Competing with your spouse over the right things can bring joy to your marriage and help you achieve and exceed your goals. Remember, never use competition to belittle your spouse, and always let go of your ego, celebrate wins together, and be gracious in victory.

Tune in to Operation: Thriving Marriage for valuable insights on fostering a healthy, competitive spark in your relationship.

Ep - 59 Chemistry Isn’t Real

Welcome to Episode 59 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage podcast - "Chemistry Isn’t Real." No, we're not diving into conspiracy theories, but rather debunking the myth of instant chemistry in relationships.

In this episode, we explore how our notions of love have been shaped by fairy tales and romantic comedies, highlighting that love at first sight is merely lust. Thriving marriages aren't built on fleeting emotions or meet-cutes; chasing chemistry leads to short-term relationships and emotional struggles.

Compatibility, not chemistry, should be your focus. Compatibility is something you build not something that magically happens or a trait that exists when you meet. Compatibility involves shared values, mutual growth, and a symbiotic relationship that evolves over time through intentional efforts.

Learn how to build compatibility by prioritizing your spouse's needs, recognizing it as a gradual process, and reflecting on the positive changes in your relationship. Passion has its place, but it doesn't replace compatibility.

To dating couples: Take time to build compatibility with someone you envision a future with. Ask crucial questions about liking who you are becoming together and mutual sacrifice.

In conclusion, this episode reaffirms that compatibility, not chemistry, forms the bedrock of a thriving marriage. It's a journey built over time, focusing on each other's needs, and envisioning a future that surpasses the present. Tune in for practical insights on fostering lasting love.

Ep 58 - Marriage is Fun!

Welcome to Episode 58 of Operation: Thriving Marriage, challenging the negativity surrounding marriages. In this episode, we delve into the abundance of negative articles on marriage, discussing what not to do and how to make things better.

Break free from the cycle of negativity. Thriving marriages highlight the positive aspects, such as building and reliving memories together, celebrating wins, unforgettable dates, and embracing silliness without self-consciousness.

Research consistently shows that married couples enjoy more and better sex, reinforcing the idea that marriage is a source of joy and connection.

Remember, marriage is fun! Take a moment today to relish in the joy of your relationship.

Ep 57 - When Intimacy Doesn’t Lead to Sex

Welcome to Episode 57 of Operation: Thriving Marriage! In this episode, we explore the crucial distinction between intimacy and sex within a marriage. Join us as we delve into the challenges faced by couples who share deep connections but find passion missing in their relationship. Discover the biblical perspective on the importance of sexual expression in marriage and explore practical solutions to enhance your intimacy. From playful communication to building anticipation, we unveil strategies to reignite the spark. Listen for insights on fostering a healthy balance between closeness and passion in your marriage. Don't miss out on the keys to a thriving and passionate relationship!

Ep 56 - Listening During Tough Conversations

Welcome to Episode 56 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast - "Listening During Tough Conversations." Join us as we explore the intricate dance of communication in marriage, focusing on the challenging yet crucial skill of effective listening.

In our discussion, we address the common notion that listening is often more challenging than expressing oneself. We delve into the complexities, particularly when your spouse communicates negative experiences within the relationship, emphasizing the significant impact these conversations can have on your marriage.

Discover the solution to navigating these tough conversations as we guide you toward growing closer with your spouse. Uncover the importance of understanding their perspective, embracing humility, and taking responsibility for managing your emotions. Learn practical techniques to overcome defensiveness, acknowledging and processing emotions, and staying present during difficult discussions.

As we wrap up, we emphasize the essential role of listening in building a thriving marriage. Episode 56 unravels the intricacies of handling tough conversations, showcasing how managing emotions and fostering closeness can pave the way for a healthy, lasting marriage. Tune in and equip yourself with the tools to navigate challenges, building a foundation that stands the test of time.

Ep 55 - Validation Leads to Transformation!

Welcome to Episode 55 of Operation Thriving Marriage! In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of validation in building a thriving marriage. From the importance of validating our spouses in various aspects of life to recognizing and overcoming the pitfalls of invalidation, we explore how positive reinforcement fosters oneness and spurs personal growth. Discover key habits that validate, such as expressing gratitude and avoiding subtle invalidations. Join us as we navigate the intricacies of presuming goodwill, fostering closeness, and making validation a cornerstone for a flourishing marriage. Tune in for practical insights and strategies to maximize the potential of validation in your relationship. Remember, validation is the key to unlocking a thriving marriage! #Validation #ThrivingMarriage #Relationships

Ep 54 - Praying as a Couple

Welcome to Episode 54 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast. In this episode, Bryon and Jen delve into the heart of Christian prayer challenges. Many Christians grapple with guilt surrounding their prayer life, openly admitting to falling short. Bryon and Jen tackle this issue, emphasizing the transformative nature of prayer that extends beyond mere conversation with God. Highlighting Jen's and Bryon's unique approaches—the episode provides a comprehensive exploration.

Listeners are invited to explore varied methods, such as the structured Anglican Morning Prayer and the intimacy of family prayer.

We hope you will initiate and sustain prayer routines without succumbing to guilt. Emphasizing God's faithfulness is unwavering. Join us for Episode 54—an insightful guide to overcoming prayer challenges and embarking on a journey of spiritual transformation.

Ep 53 - Anniversary Edition! Questions from Listeners

This is our 2 year anniversary episode! In this episode Bryon and Jennifer take listener questions.

• When is it ok to seek advice outside of the marriage?
• How do you raise kids when you have different backgrounds, opinions, and traditions?
• What is the best way to build trust after repeated infidelity?
• We seem to hear about husbands wanting sex more often, how do you navigate when the wife seems to need it more?
• What to do if our love languages collide with each other?