Operation: Thriving Marriage

Ep 67 - Through the Eyes of a Child

In this enlightening episode of the Operation: Thriving Marriage podcast, we turn the spotlight on our first guests - our kids! Join us as we dive into the world of marriage from a child's perspective, exploring their candid thoughts, heartfelt observations, and innocent wisdom about what it takes to build a thriving marriage. 

Our kids share their views on love, partnership, and what they've learned from watching us navigate the ups and downs of married life. This heartwarming and insightful episode offers a refreshing look at marriage through the eyes of the next generation. Whether you're a

Ep 66 - Spicing Things Up

In this episode of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast, we answer a listener question. Megen asked “How to spice things up in marriage without cheating.”

Marriages all go through phase in sex and intimacy. There are times when sex is less frequent than one or both of you desire. There are also times when the sex is not as fulfilling as one or both of you would like it to be. These are normal struggles in marriage. Cheating will not solve those problems. Cheating can only lead to hurt and pain in a marriage.

In this episode we talk about different ways to spice up the sex in your marriage. One of the most important things is to discuss sex together and communicate what you want and need. Other ideas include ways of being more sexy towards each other and planning a sex date.

Please keep the questions coming. We love to hear from you. You can contact us at OperationThrivingMarriage.com. We hope you enjoy this episode and come up with new ways to spice things up in your own marriage.

Ep 65 - Flood of Anger

Welcome to Operation: Thriving Marriage. In today's episode, we address a common marital issue—anger. Often, we blame our spouse for making us angry, creating a cycle of blame and frustration. But here's the truth: it's not our spouse who controls our emotions; it's us.

We dive into how to break this harmful cycle by taking responsibility for our feelings. Understand that your emotions are shaped by your personality, genetics, and past experiences, not by your spouse's actions. Recognize that incidents, not people, incite anger.

Learn practical steps to manage your anger: pause, pray, or take a walk to calm down. Communicate with your spouse without blaming them. Instead of saying, "You make me angry," say, "When this happens, I feel..."

Join us as we explore these insights and offer tools to transform how you handle anger, fostering a loving and peaceful marriage. Tune in to Operation: Thriving Marriage and start building a stronger relationship today!

Ep 64 - Trad Wives

Welcome to Episode 64 of Operation: Thriving Marriage! In this episode, we delve into the topic of Trad Wives, exploring what it means to be a Trad Wife, its roots in nostalgia versus scripture, and its impact on modern marriages.

Hosts Bryon and Jen kick off the discussion by questioning the allure of the Trad Wife movement and its representation in today's culture. They dissect the aesthetic versus the practical actions associated with being a Trad Wife, highlighting the unrealistic expectations it can create, especially for young couples.

The episode tackles the roots of the Trad Wife movement, emphasizing its foundation in 1950s marketing rather than biblical truths. It sheds light on how this movement, while not inherently wrong, can lead to shame and dysfunction, particularly for those unable to meet its standards.

Listeners are encouraged to critically evaluate trends that claim to represent biblical truths about marriage. The hosts stress the importance of consulting qualified sources like pastors and theologians rather than relying solely on social media influencers.

The discussion also delves into biblical perspectives on beauty, submission, and marital roles, providing a balanced view that encourages godly character and mutual respect within marriages.

In conclusion, Operation: Thriving Marriage emphasizes the need to align marital practices with biblical principles rather than cultural trends. The episode serves as a guide for couples navigating the complexities of marriage, urging them to seek wisdom from trusted sources and to prioritize their relationship with Christ above all else.

Tune in to gain valuable insights into building a thriving marriage rooted in biblical truth!

Ep 63 - Critical Spouses

Welcome to Episode 63 of Operation: Thriving Marriage! In this episode, we delve into the delicate balance between criticism and growth within marriage. We explore the concept that holiness, not just happiness, is a key goal. First, we address the challenge posed by criticism, often a significant source of conflict in marriages. How can we navigate critiquing our spouse without causing harm?Our solution? Presume goodwill. Regular listeners know this mantra well. Coupled with humility, we delve into Proverbs 16:18, emphasizing the importance of humility in both listening and speaking. Understanding context and maintaining a loving relationship foundation are also crucial elements discussed.Join us as we unpack these essential principles that not only foster growth in holiness but also strengthen the fabric of our marriages. Remember, marriage isn't just about happiness; it's about fulfilling God's vocation for us and aiding each other in becoming more Christ-like. Tune in for practical insights on thriving in both holiness and marital harmony.

Ep 62 - Relationship Jet Lag

Welcome to Operation: Thriving Marriage, where we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships and provide actionable insights to help your marriage flourish. In this episode, we explore the concept of "Relationship Jet Lag."Host Bryon kicks off the conversation with his recent frequent travels, highlighting the stark differences in how couples experience reconnection after a period of separation. Whether it's days, weeks, or even hours apart, many couples face challenges in reconnecting due to what we term "Relationship Jet Lag."This phenomenon of "jet lag" in relationships manifests as a mental disconnection despite physical presence, often caused by unmet expectations or unanticipated circumstances. It can lead to dissatisfaction, isolation, reduced communication, hurt, and anger.Navigating this "jet lag" requires acknowledgment and open communication. Couples must share their feelings and experiences, addressing unmet expectations and making joint plans to overcome them. Listening actively and giving each other space and understanding are crucial steps in bridging the gap.We delve into practical strategies, emphasizing honesty about emotional "timezones," patience during transitions, and making the most of shared moments. Additionally, we reference biblical wisdom on forgiveness and understanding, reinforcing the importance of empathy and kindness in building a resilient connection.Join us on Operation: Thriving Marriage as we equip you with tools to conquer "Relationship Jet Lag" and strengthen your marital bond. Stay tuned for future episodes focused on enriching your relationship journey.

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Ep 61 - When Compromise is Not an Option

Discover why compromise isn't always the answer in marriage, as we delve into the pitfalls of elevating compromise too high in marital discussions. Join us as we explore real-life examples, biblical perspectives, and practical solutions for resolving conflicts when compromise is not an option. Learn how to identify underlying values, seek guidance, and make decisions that strengthen your marriage without sacrificing your core beliefs. Don't miss this insightful episode on navigating marital conflicts with wisdom and grace.

Ep 60 - Competing in Marriage

Episode 62 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast – exploring the dynamics of Healthy Competition in relationships.

Discover the underlying problem as we explore how competition can lead to conflict in marriages. We discuss how competitive individuals often attach personal value to winning, revealing insecurities that breed negative feelings.

Our suggested solution emphasizes that avoiding competition altogether doesn't foster a thriving marriage. Instead, learn to compete in healthy ways by letting go of your ego, celebrating your spouse's victories, and being gracious when you win.

We provide insights on what's fair game in healthy competition - from the gym to games - and what's off-limits, like competing for children's affection. It's crucial to prioritize your relationship over the competition.

In the conclusion, we affirm that healthy competition is a positive force that pushes us to be better. Competing with your spouse over the right things can bring joy to your marriage and help you achieve and exceed your goals. Remember, never use competition to belittle your spouse, and always let go of your ego, celebrate wins together, and be gracious in victory.

Tune in to Operation: Thriving Marriage for valuable insights on fostering a healthy, competitive spark in your relationship.

Ep - 59 Chemistry Isn’t Real

Welcome to Episode 59 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage podcast - "Chemistry Isn’t Real." No, we're not diving into conspiracy theories, but rather debunking the myth of instant chemistry in relationships.

In this episode, we explore how our notions of love have been shaped by fairy tales and romantic comedies, highlighting that love at first sight is merely lust. Thriving marriages aren't built on fleeting emotions or meet-cutes; chasing chemistry leads to short-term relationships and emotional struggles.

Compatibility, not chemistry, should be your focus. Compatibility is something you build not something that magically happens or a trait that exists when you meet. Compatibility involves shared values, mutual growth, and a symbiotic relationship that evolves over time through intentional efforts.

Learn how to build compatibility by prioritizing your spouse's needs, recognizing it as a gradual process, and reflecting on the positive changes in your relationship. Passion has its place, but it doesn't replace compatibility.

To dating couples: Take time to build compatibility with someone you envision a future with. Ask crucial questions about liking who you are becoming together and mutual sacrifice.

In conclusion, this episode reaffirms that compatibility, not chemistry, forms the bedrock of a thriving marriage. It's a journey built over time, focusing on each other's needs, and envisioning a future that surpasses the present. Tune in for practical insights on fostering lasting love.

Ep 58 - Marriage is Fun!

Welcome to Episode 58 of Operation: Thriving Marriage, challenging the negativity surrounding marriages. In this episode, we delve into the abundance of negative articles on marriage, discussing what not to do and how to make things better.

Break free from the cycle of negativity. Thriving marriages highlight the positive aspects, such as building and reliving memories together, celebrating wins, unforgettable dates, and embracing silliness without self-consciousness.

Research consistently shows that married couples enjoy more and better sex, reinforcing the idea that marriage is a source of joy and connection.

Remember, marriage is fun! Take a moment today to relish in the joy of your relationship.