Ep 43 - Struggling for Control

Join us in this episode as we delve into the challenges couples face in maintaining self-determination while becoming a cohesive unit in marriage. Though the ideal is unity, it's natural for both partners to desire independence and resist control.

Tracing the roots of the struggle for control, we find it originates from the fall and the introduction of sin and selfishness. Through interviews with couples in crisis, we witness the common thread of control issues leading to conflicts in various aspects of their lives.

However, we emphasize that controlling behavior is contrary to God's plan. It encompasses harmful actions like violence, intimidation, manipulation, and abuse, all of which are unacceptable and sinful.

To overcome struggles for control, we offer a three-step approach: stop using controlling behavior, confess the wrongdoing to your partner, and genuinely seek forgiveness. Repentance is essential, where couples learn to communicate their needs lovingly and work together to find common ground.

For more deeply rooted patterns of control, seeking guidance from a marriage coach or counselor is encouraged. Addressing such issues proactively can help couples build a stronger and healthier relationship.

Our utmost priority is to address the seriousness of abuse. It should never be considered normal or tolerated. In situations of abuse, immediate action is necessary to ensure safety and seek professional help.

In conclusion, let's remember that marriage is a partnership built on sacrificial love and mutual respect. Embracing freedom while honoring each other's self-determination can lead to a fulfilling and harmonious relationship. On this Independence Day, let's celebrate not just America's freedom but also the freedom within our marriages.